Hello friends and happy Friday! Sometimes I have a thought surrounding food and habits and I mull it over long enough it feels worth it to share. Some won’t agree and that’s totally ok, but I figured this train of thought might be helpful for some of you.
Much like decision fatigue, I believe that self-control/will power can become exhausted. Now, before I continue, I am not trying to belittle the power of God in this. I believe wholeheartedly that Jesus answers prayers and desires to be our helper. He is our Creator. He is all-powerful and able to meet our needs when we cry out to Him. But I also believe that He made us human. And at the end of the day, we all need sleep. And food. And air. We are not God and were created with limitations. I believe self-control falls into these limitations. I think self-control is something God has given us but something we need to steward wisely.
Personally, I need self control in a lot of areas, many pertaining to my children. Self-control not to yell. Self-control to be patient. Self-control to help set a godly example for them. Because I know this is a valuable resource, I prefer not to “waste it” on foods I have found I need a lot of self-control around. My top two: peanut m&ms and Nutella. Costco sells both of these items in very large, great value bulk packaging. But you know what? It’s simply not worth the “self-control cost” to me.
I believe wholeheartedly in enjoying my food and not restricting these types of items, so when I do enjoy them, I choose to purchase them in a size that requires little self control. A size I can enjoy in 1-2 sittings and then not have around for a while. So, after a few days went by of really wanting some Nutella, I finally found myself at the store and able to buy some. There were 5 different sized jars. I chose the next to smallest, knowing I could freely enjoy it in one sitting or five and feel zero guilt when I was done. For the record, I ate it all in one sitting ? Now for some of you, this was completely irresponsible and gluttonous. I should have practiced temperance and left some in the jar. But you see, I know myself and how much Nutella I can consume. This jar is chump change! Had I bought the giant jar, I would have likely still consumed this much Nutella, and then had 2/3 of a giant jar left to taunt me from my cabinet. This jar was the perfect amount. Zero guilt, maximum enjoyment.
There are lots of sweets we keep around the house that I enjoy, but Nutella and peanut m&ms…well, those are next level. They are my “zero brakes” foods. And frankly, I prefer to use my self control stores for a lot of other more important things than chocolate covered peanuts.
Maybe you can relate? If so, here’s my encouragement: I don’t think you necessarily need to totally cut these items from your life. I think that can create unhealthy relationships with food, live under food rules/stigmas, and ultimately make you sad. Maybe you just need to be smarter about how you purchase it. Ask yourself “is this large box/bag worth the amount of self-control I am going to have to expend to not eat it all in one sitting?” If not, go for a smaller package size.
To reiterate the point, when you are wanting your favorite candy/cake/chip/no brakes food, you can:
a) completely abstain from it
b) buy the large size (often this is what we go for since it “seems” like the best value)
c) buy the item in a size you know you can enjoy without the guilt
In my humble opinion, I think C is the best option here. It honors your body’s desire for the food and doesn’t allow for putting foods into “good/evil” categories. At the same time, I think it heeds your body’s limited self-control stores. Because while the bulk/value package may seem like it’s saving your wallet, it is costing you in the self-control department.
I hope this has been a helpful thought. For me, it’s really less about the food and more about my precious self-control. It’s a resource I know the Lord can give abundantly, but I simply prefer to preserve it as best I can for the more important things.
Mom to four wonderful little people. While they sleep, I cook.
Great food for thought! I could eat that entire bag of peanut m&m’s in one short sitting. They are a weakness for me as well.
Love the pun you used! Peanut M&Ms are just so dang good!
I enjoyed reading your article. I’ve recently been listening to many podcasts and books about intuitive eating, and have learned that restricting leads to bingeing. When we remove the moral labels from food, and stop restricting foods that we deem unhealthy or bad, and allow ourselves to eat those foods, eventuality they don’t hold power over us. When we put restrictions on foods, it makes us hyper focused on it, and it’s all we can think about. Then when we get that “forbidden” food, we binge. Anyway, I’m not an expert, and I’m still learning to navigate this whole food/exercise thing without making it obsessive.
One of the pages/podcasts that I follow is The Body Love Society, and they’re all about wellness without the obsession. Another great podcast that has been eye-opening is It’s Not About the Food with Dr. Stefani Reinold.
Oh that podcast sounds amazing, thank you so much for sharing it! I couldn’t agree more on the intuitive eating 🙂
Yes, yes and yes!!!! My 2 no brakes Foods are pb m&ms and Nutella! Ha! Ha! I completely agree with this strategy! You actually leaves you in control and without guilt. We do this for ice cream and the kids other treats as well. ?♥️
Couldn’t agree more! And I am so glad we share a love for these things, ha!
This is such a fresh way to think of things. Thank you! I am going to keep it in my bag of tricks. This Mom needs all the help there is.
I am so glad to hear it!
There is so much truth and wisdom here. Thank you for a completely new perspective for me on ALL the things in my life that demand self control and one of the reasons why it always feels in short supply. Several friends recommended your blog to me, and I’m glad they did.
Laura, thank you so much for your kinds words! I am so glad the blog has been helpful 🙂
I love this!! What a fresh way to look at things. I struggle with soda ? and I know that if I try to completely cut it out I end up going to the McDonald’s drive-thru to get one. Thank you for sharing this!
I am so glad that it was helpful for you!
Hi Kate,
Just wanted to leave you a little note + let you know that your honest, no frills, sincere posts (like this one) add so much value to my life. I so appreciate the practical application of them + the constant reminders to turn back to Jesus.
I think you’re an absolute gem + just adore your sweet fam. Keep sharing, please!
Jessica, this is so very kind! Means a lot to me and I am so glad this was helpful 🙂
This article is such a good reminder for me. I found you on Instagram and love your perspective on so much! Thanks for keeping it real!
Thank you so much! You are so kind. I am glad it was helpful 🙂